| Ladies Room: When is settling giving up? |
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| Written by Natalie McDonald | |
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When ever two people enter a relationship there are certain things that each must give up or adjust to accommodate for someone new in there life. Also in a relationship there are the inevitable fights and misunderstandings ending in one person giving in to the other or occasionally both giving in partly for one another. So after all is said and done when is settling giving up and giving in that he/ she are the best that you will or can ever have? It has been said that you never know what you have till it is gone, but imagine if you never knew what you could have because you where just satisfied in your relationship and never intended on ending it yourself? As much as you like to think that this could never happen to you it could. A healthy relationship makes you a better and happier person. Being in a great relationship can make you feel like you can walk on water. You know the feeling that no matter what you do the other person will except you and love you because they love your every detail. Well now imagine the opposite. You are now in a relationship where your significant other does not like everything about you but deals with it. Sometimes this significant other doesn’t tell you what they are doing, making the details of their life seem seedy to a viewers eyes. There are tons of people that put up with these types of actions because they believe that they are satisfied and that the fight is not worth it. It is those thoughts “the fight is just not worth it” that should make you question your values on relationships. When it comes down to it if the relationship does not make you better or add some value to your life then it is probably not a healthy relationship for you to be in. In fact many relationships start out with the warm fuzzes and turn into a lifeless excuse for love. Many people hold onto the relationship because they remember how great it was and hope that some day like a miracle there relationship will come back from the dead. What usually ends up happening to a failing relationship is that neither party tries to end it until it is domed to be a painful mess. So how can you avoid the lack of the warm fuzzes? A great way to start is communication; it really is the key to keeping a relationship. If you tell your significant other where you are going and with whom a lot of fights can be avoided. A lot of times things that you never thought would bother someone can really shake them to the core. It may be a comment you make or a person you decide to hang out with one night, but your significant other may decide that they are over reacting and should just let it go and settle. This is where the problems start because now one person feels that they are being cheated in the relationship. So remember communication, and you can never tell too much. Hope to see everyone back next week of another exciting column. Remember if you have any questions or comments you can e-mail them to the Miner at This email address is being protected from spam bots, you need Javascript enabled to view it |
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